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The focus on piano lessons is what initially drew me to this book. I “read” Lessons via Audible over the course of a few weeks, with many of those listening sessions happening late at night (alongside some bouts of insomnia). I really like the style of Ian McEwan’s writing, and this book delivered on that front. I also liked the story arc (is that a word) of this book, as it navigated many different historical timeframes and events (fall of the Berlin wall, Cuban Missile Crisis, Covid pandemic, etc). Roland, the main character/protagonist, is relatable in certain ways, and I’d say the parts of the book that stood out the most for me were those that delved into struggles with his inner demons combined with his perspectives and realizations across the different seasons of life.

Summary

Instead of reading notes (which are more suited for non-fiction) I’ll instead share my “summary” in a few paragraphs:

Overall, McEwan’s “Lessons” is a captivating novel that explores the depths of human despair and identity. The story follows an unexpected friendship between two people, a young boy and his eccentric piano teacher, that slowly unravels as secrets of their past come to light. The story unfolds across all seasons of life for the main characters, with many twists and turns (which mostly kept my interest). The compelling narrative conveys complex emotions of love, loss, guilt and shame.

A powerful combination of realism in the characters’ interactions is punctuated with sharp wit makes for an evocative read/listen. As I followed along with Roland’s journey, I was also brought face-to-face with many of my own innermost thoughts and emotions.

As with most McEwan books I’ve read, this one too evoked emotions like sorrow and pain alongside joy and pleasure – a testament to how good writing can capture both heart and mind.

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I can’t remember which podcast interview featuring Chris Bruno (author) I listened to — it was one of many in the stream that accompanies me at the gym or on neighborhood walks with our dog.

But I do know his words resonated, and appealed to many of the nuances I’ve been navigating on this current pathway into midlife. Morgan Snyder, an author I appreciate on many fronts, wrote this about Sage – A Man’s Guide Into His Second Passage:

“Curated with clarity and care…[a] timely message for men who deeply desire to experience the full portion of masculine maturity, build an enduring legacy in the second half of life, and finish well.”

READING NOTES:

• To become a Sage is to offer generative life to the world.
• The full realization of our humanity is not measured by the battles we fight, the wealth we accumulate, or the kingdoms we rule, but by the depth of soul we grow in the second half of life.
• Old men who do not become Elders merely become elderly.
• Your greatest legacy will be found in the recovery of the glorious masterpiece God has written into your life and putting it on display for all to know the Master – that is the true measure of a man.
• The enemy of our hearts wants to hijack our masculine power and castrate our potency, to overrun our kingdoms and take us and those in our care captive.
• Boys are born, but men are made, men do not automatically become Sages with age. Sages too are made.
• No one can enter the second half until and unless he is willing to take responsibility for his own identity and meaning.
• As the body cannot live without food, so the soul cannot live without meaning.
• Our wives, jobs, children, church, community, parents, and friends will fail to provide us the meaning of our lives. We must relieve them of these duties and free them to be who they are, not who we need them to be for us.
• Not midlife crisis…midlife awakening.
• [Something to ponder] – The life I’m living may not be the same as the life that wants to live in me.
• The true weight, the true richness of who we are, cannot be held in first-half containers.
• Every man is called to take heed of the changing seasons of his life and mark them with purpose and intention.
• Your concern is not so much to have what you love anymore, but to love what you have — right now.
• The Sage of the second half has moved away from the constant drive for bigger and better and finds joy in the gift of the present. It truly is the secret.
• [As a Sage] we have enough inner stillness to seek the kingdom found in everything and everyone.
• A significant indicator of a man’s intentional movement over the threshold into his second half is the degree to which he divests of his ego’s need for elevation and instead finds his way back to the dirt.
• There is space inside the Sage for others to find rest.
• The first hallmark of the Sage is his settled contentedness, which then creates within him an inner spacious hospitality for others.
• Second half Sages move toward the mystery of God, not away, and welcome God’s victory over their first-half theological egos.
• Sages are not either-or thinkers, but they bathe in the ocean of both-and.
• Grief and suffering are a crucible for the soul, where the white-hot flames of pain and sorrow transform a man’s heart, fundamentally moving him forward in life’s journey.
• Suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame.
• The tentacles of contempt do nor easily release a heart.
• Rather than accept what is, let us be a generation of men who reimagine what could be.
• “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls.” [Jeremiah 6:16, NIV]
• For men to move further into the second half, our younger parts must find their way back.

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Disclaimer: These Reading Notes are not a replacement for reading the book — just a sampling of my personal notes (copyright to the author), and potentially out of context as well.